I’ve heard it said that rejection is a killer to the ego and self-esteem. This is true. It’s not easy having your written work rejected. I’ve been submitting to literary magazines with no success just yet, and I get that that is part of the process. I’m keeping a pretty positive perspective about it, but it does get a little tough at times. But rejection is not the only killer.
The biggest killer for me is the waiting. Over the last year, I have done a lot of waiting. When you’ve submitted your work to beta readers, literary magazines, writing competitions, prospective employers and the like, the waiting brings up so many fears and doubts and all around misery really.
I have a vivid imagination. This is probably why I’m a writer. When I wait, I daydream. Sometimes those fantasies are exciting and feature success, but as the waiting gets longer and rejections seem to pile up, I find those thoughts darker and filled with self-doubt.
In order to remain positive, I am reading articles by other authors about their road to publication. It’s inspiring to know that every short story that James Patterson ever submitted to literary magazines was rejected. This is not because I relish in his rejections, but because he is an accomplished and incredibly talented author. Rejection is part of even his process. And sometimes, it just takes time before the right story lands before the right editor.
Do you find waiting to be a killer to your psyche? What have you done to try to get through it?